After having our feelings dragged endlessly through the mud, we aim to turn the tables. Perhaps it comes in the form of stringing someone along, ending things abruptly, or just using someone up. We’ve become a little cold and vengeful for what we’ve been through.
Slow Mo
In the event of finding ourselves trying again, we want to move slow. We become hesitant, like a chipmunk summoning the courage to eat nuts from the palm of a hand. If we do start developing feelings, we take time to do certain things, like saying “I love you.” We don’t want to put ourselves right out there only to have it all crumbling down yet again.
A Sliver of Hope
Despite all the hurt and cynicism, still a tiny part of us yearns for love. We cling to faint hope, all the while knowing that the door is open for more hurt. We don’t feel great about leaving the door slightly ajar, but after all, we are human and still want to experience love.
If you’re at a point in life where things may just be looking up but you’re still unsure, try preparing for a relationship differently. Learn about Love Languages, for example. You never know who or what will bring love into your life next, but being open and prepared for a healthy relationship is a key ingredient to its success.
