You didn’t start out like this, it just kind of happened. You’ve been heartbroken too many times and are now a product of the hurt and pain. Once, you were an eternal optimist, open-minded and ready to be swept away by love. Now, you’re surrounded by self-constructed walls, reserved, and you gasp at the thought of romance. Your new self has become so prevalent that you may not even realize what you’ve become.
Sadly, this is the case for many women who have been repeatedly hurt and heartbroken. To protect ourselves from being hurt again, our minds have implemented behavioral mechanisms. The mechanisms are instinctual and you may have not even notice you’re doing them, so here they are…
We Wake Up Skeptical
After all the hurt, we refuse to believe true romance will ever come our way. Even in a scenario where we are getting positive signals, we will cast doubt and throw cold water on them. Maybe we’ve crossed paths with a new guy at work, in our apartment, through a friend, and the vibe is good. Our instinct is to shun the possibility that something real is happening; it just can’t be.
True Romance Is for Fairy Tales
Growing up we actually believed in a thing called true love. Stories like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty seemed real and had meaning. We dreamed of a day of meeting our very own Prince Charming and live happily ever after. After having our hearts bruised and battered so many times, true love has become make belief, a fairy tale.
